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Woman on Abortion: “I had no idea that this one decision would change my life forever.”

The following story was written from an actual client. She completed the post-abortive program Life Centers offers, soar. Soar (spiritually oriented abortion recovery) is a post-abortion recovery support group for those impacted by the loss of a child to abortion.  Life Centers leads participants on a confidential journey of recovery in an intimate support group with others who are moving toward freedom and healing.

If you would like more information about soar, including session dates, click here.

I had an abortion on July 17, 2008. I went to a clinic for a “way out” of my circumstances. I didn’t want to be pregnant. Not because I didn’t want children, I had a daughter at the time, but because of life circumstances. I thought that at that time, being pregnant and having another child would make my life more difficult. I thought that having an abortion meant I would be “free” from this situation. What I didn’t realize, was that this false sense of freedom was actually putting me in bondage. I had no idea that this one decision would change my life forever.

I was not the same person after I left that clinic. I was a mother, I had a child. I understood how precious life was. But I was afraid and I didn’t believe that God would take care of me. I went to the clinic, I went through with the abortion even though so many times I thought about leaving. I was afraid to stay and I was afraid to leave. Sometimes when I think back to that day, I find myself calling out to that girl, me, though it wasn’t me. I’m telling her to “Get UP! You don’t have to stay there. You don’t have to do this. Get UP!” I so wish that I had gotten up. That I’d had that courage. But I didn’t.

After carrying this burden around for 5 years, I sought out a support group. Google took me to Life Centers. Machelle assured me that Grace bible study (now soar) would really help. I showed up on our first day. I really didn’t want to go into the building. My heart was pounding. So many voices were trying to convince me that it wouldn’t really help. I knew that I didn’t want to continue carrying this with me- the guilt and shame. Some days it was more than I could handle. But I showed up, and I was willing to do the hard work. I struggled through many of the topics, but the struggle wasn’t in vein. God was breaking down some very thick walls so that He could show some light where it was dark. Grace (now soar) gave me hope when I had none. Grace helped me see Jesus when I believed He had left me. Grace helped me fully understand God’s true love and forgiveness. He doesn’t forgive us because He has to, He does because He wants to.

While I know that this is a part of my story and a part of my journey, it’s not how God ever intended my life to be, but I can walk with Him in love and grace.

If you want more information about abortion recovery through soar, please contact Machelle Montgomery.

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Your Program Saved My Life and My Daughter’s Life

Some of the most powerful, most impactful, most miraculous stories are told directly from the source. We shared this client’s story, Failed Abortion Was Little Boys’ Answered Prayer For Baby Sister,  back in February. She wrote her story and sent it to us, wanting to share with others how Life Centers can help them, too. Her story is truly moving and shows how mighty the Lord we serve really is.

I was recruited by a company from my home state to Indianapolis in the fall of 2017.  Right before our move, my husband and I found out we were expecting.  At 35 (me) and 40 (him) we were not expecting to have another child.  While I was reluctant, he was insistent, and we proceeded with a medical abortion. This doesn’t happen to us! We’re adults with college educations, we make good money, we were careful, we were married, I hold a prominent professional position.  This just doesn’t happen to us, or people like us. 

The abortion failed.  As we found out some months later after we arrived in Indiana.  I called every place in town looking for help.  Your centers were the only ones that truly helped me during this difficult time.  My husband left for a period, to process the news and I was on my own with a young son as well.  After a few months apart, God put it on his heart to return to us. 

We prayed for the baby together.  And I felt something change in my heart towards this child.  Pregnancy was pretty non-eventful, however God showed his great mercy again, when I nearly died on the operating table from an amniotic fluid embolism, hysterectomy, and inverted uterus.  As it turns out – the fact the placenta had grown into the uterus is largely the contributing factor as to why the abortion didn’t medically work.  Spiritually, God didn’t want it to work, and He always knows what he’s doing. 

This life and death experience for me and my new 3-month old daughter has changed my opinion on pro-life versus pro-choice.  She has completed our family.  I’m trying to pay it forward now, bringing in items to the location that my daughter doesn’t need any more to help others.   If there is a call to action – it is this.  YOUR PROGRAM SAVED MY LIFE AND MY DAUGHTERS LIFE.  Without your donors and volunteers, I don’t think I would be here today.  Thank you for all you do for our community and our children. 

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A Baby Bath Tub and A Bouncer Seat

You’ve heard it time and time again: It takes a village. This is especially true when you’re talking about caring for and raising a baby.

At our centers, we stock up on baby supplies like diapers, clothing, bottles, and other items. These different baby supplies are given to moms or dads who need them for their own baby.

Recently, a previous client came back to our Boone County center. She didn’t need anything; she came in to give back some of the items that we had provided her with last year when she was pregnant. Her baby is now a 1-year-old, so she brought back the baby bath tub and bouncer seat that he could no longer use. She told the center director that she was so blessed by receiving these items from us, that she wanted to return the favor for the next mom who will need them. We were so touched by her thoughtfulness to bring back these items that she no longer needed for her son.

And then something wonderful happened. Just after the woman who gave back the baby items had left, an expectant mother came into the Boone County center needing two things: a baby bath tub and a bouncer seat.

God’s timing is perfect. These two women’s lives crossed paths and their stories aligned just perfectly without ever meeting one another. It truly does take a village, and sometimes that village includes people you’ve never even met.

If you’re interested in donating baby supplies, check out our urgent needs list. Items can be dropped off at any of our locations, or you can shop our Amazon wish list and have the items shipped directly to us!

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A Mother’s Instinct

Kattie came to one of our centers back in October for a pregnancy test. She told the peer counselor, Tina, that she had been spotting a few days ago, but she hadn’t at all today. Kattie proceeded to take a pregnancy test, which was positive.

After her visit to the center, Tina was unable to reach Kattie. She had called and left her several messages. Just last week, six months later, Tina made contact with her. She was very reserved, and did not give much information about the pregnancy and how she was feeling. Tina was concerned something had happened to her or the baby (abortion? a miscarriage?) but she thanked Tina for calling and agreed to come in for her Baby Bundle.

Yesterday, Kattie came in and told Tina her story.

Four weeks after Kattie came into our center, she was still spotting sporadically and knew something “just wasn’t quite right.” She had never spotted with her three previous pregnancies. At this time, Kattie had not started her pre-natal care with her doctor. She finally called her OB-GYN and they scheduled a routine ultrasound.

During the ultrasound, Kattie was relieved to see and hear the baby’s heartbeat. The sonographer showed her the different measurements and assured Kattie that everything “looked normal.”

But something caught Kattie’s eye, and she asked the sonographer to go back to the previous spot they were just looking at. She asked the sonographer, “Is that supposed to be there?” The technician went silent and turned white. She even dropped the equipment she was holding. The ultrasound technician said, “I can’t tell you, but your baby is okay. The doctor will have to confirm everything.” Then the technician left the room, leaving Kattie on the table crying, unsure of what was happening. She just started to pray.

When the doctor came in, she told her she was right to trust her “mother’s instinct.” The doctor then told Kattie she was pregnant with twins, but one of the babies was stuck in the fallopian tube. Surgery was required immediately to remove the tube before it burst. The doctor said if Kattie had waited just one more day to have an ultrasound, she might not be alive. At this point, Kattie couldn’t believe what she was hearing. She knew something wasn’t right, but now she feared losing the other baby or possibly her own life.

Kattie made arrangements for her three other kids, and contacted her employer to take some time off from work. She went into surgery and they removed the entire fallopian tube. Kattie and her other baby came through surgery just fine! She is now mourning the loss of the baby who did not survive, but praising Jesus for sparing her life and the life of the other twin. She told Tina that she has no doubt God’s plans are more perfect than ours, and that He gives each mother the strength required to be a mom- one of the most humbling and rewarding callings we as women accept.

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