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The following story was written from an actual client. She completed the post-abortive program Life Centers offers, soar. Soar (spiritually oriented abortion recovery) is a post-abortion recovery support group for those impacted by the loss of a child to abortion. Life Centers leads participants on a confidential journey of recovery in an intimate support group with others who are moving toward freedom and healing.
If you would like more information about soar, including session dates, click here.
I had an abortion on July 17, 2008. I went to a clinic for a “way out” of my circumstances. I didn’t want to be pregnant. Not because I didn’t want children, I had a daughter at the time, but because of life circumstances. I thought that at that time, being pregnant and having another child would make my life more difficult. I thought that having an abortion meant I would be “free” from this situation. What I didn’t realize, was that this false sense of freedom was actually putting me in bondage. I had no idea that this one decision would change my life forever.
I was not the same person after I left that clinic. I was a mother, I had a child. I understood how precious life was. But I was afraid and I didn’t believe that God would take care of me. I went to the clinic, I went through with the abortion even though so many times I thought about leaving. I was afraid to stay and I was afraid to leave. Sometimes when I think back to that day, I find myself calling out to that girl, me, though it wasn’t me. I’m telling her to “Get UP! You don’t have to stay there. You don’t have to do this. Get UP!” I so wish that I had gotten up. That I’d had that courage. But I didn’t.
After carrying this burden around for 5 years, I sought out a support group. Google took me to Life Centers. Machelle assured me that Grace bible study (now soar) would really help. I showed up on our first day. I really didn’t want to go into the building. My heart was pounding. So many voices were trying to convince me that it wouldn’t really help. I knew that I didn’t want to continue carrying this with me- the guilt and shame. Some days it was more than I could handle. But I showed up, and I was willing to do the hard work. I struggled through many of the topics, but the struggle wasn’t in vein. God was breaking down some very thick walls so that He could show some light where it was dark. Grace (now soar) gave me hope when I had none. Grace helped me see Jesus when I believed He had left me. Grace helped me fully understand God’s true love and forgiveness. He doesn’t forgive us because He has to, He does because He wants to.
While I know that this is a part of my story and a part of my journey, it’s not how God ever intended my life to be, but I can walk with Him in love and grace.
If you want more information about abortion recovery through soar, please contact Machelle Montgomery.
Some of the most powerful, most impactful, most miraculous stories are told directly from the source. We shared this client’s story, Failed Abortion Was Little Boys’ Answered Prayer For Baby Sister, back in February. She wrote her story and sent it to us, wanting to share with others how Life Centers can help them, too. Her story is truly moving and shows how mighty the Lord we serve really is.
I was recruited by a company from my home state to Indianapolis in the fall of 2017. Right before our move, my husband and I found out we were expecting. At 35 (me) and 40 (him) we were not expecting to have another child. While I was reluctant, he was insistent, and we proceeded with a medical abortion. This doesn’t happen to us! We’re adults with college educations, we make good money, we were careful, we were married, I hold a prominent professional position. This just doesn’t happen to us, or people like us.
The abortion failed. As we found out some months later after we arrived in Indiana. I called every place in town looking for help. Your centers were the only ones that truly helped me during this difficult time. My husband left for a period, to process the news and I was on my own with a young son as well. After a few months apart, God put it on his heart to return to us.
We prayed for the baby together. And I felt something change in my heart towards this child. Pregnancy was pretty non-eventful, however God showed his great mercy again, when I nearly died on the operating table from an amniotic fluid embolism, hysterectomy, and inverted uterus. As it turns out – the fact the placenta had grown into the uterus is largely the contributing factor as to why the abortion didn’t medically work. Spiritually, God didn’t want it to work, and He always knows what he’s doing.
This life and death experience for me and my new 3-month old daughter has changed my opinion on pro-life versus pro-choice. She has completed our family. I’m trying to pay it forward now, bringing in items to the location that my daughter doesn’t need any more to help others. If there is a call to action – it is this. YOUR PROGRAM SAVED MY LIFE AND MY DAUGHTERS LIFE. Without your donors and volunteers, I don’t think I would be here today. Thank you for all you do for our community and our children.
You’ve heard it time and time again: It takes a village. This is especially true when you’re talking about caring for and raising a baby.
At our centers, we stock up on baby supplies like diapers, clothing, bottles, and other items. These different baby supplies are given to moms or dads who need them for their own baby.
Recently, a previous client came back to our Boone County center. She didn’t need anything; she came in to give back some of the items that we had provided her with last year when she was pregnant. Her baby is now a 1-year-old, so she brought back the baby bath tub and bouncer seat that he could no longer use. She told the center director that she was so blessed by receiving these items from us, that she wanted to return the favor for the next mom who will need them. We were so touched by her thoughtfulness to bring back these items that she no longer needed for her son.
And then something wonderful happened. Just after the woman who gave back the baby items had left, an expectant mother came into the Boone County center needing two things: a baby bath tub and a bouncer seat.
God’s timing is perfect. These two women’s lives crossed paths and their stories aligned just perfectly without ever meeting one another. It truly does take a village, and sometimes that village includes people you’ve never even met.
If you’re interested in donating baby supplies, check out our urgent needs list. Items can be dropped off at any of our locations, or you can shop our Amazon wish list and have the items shipped directly to us!
Kattie came to one of our centers back in October for a pregnancy test. She told the peer counselor, Tina, that she had been spotting a few days ago, but she hadn’t at all today. Kattie proceeded to take a pregnancy test, which was positive.
After her visit to the center, Tina was unable to reach Kattie. She had called and left her several messages. Just last week, six months later, Tina made contact with her. She was very reserved, and did not give much information about the pregnancy and how she was feeling. Tina was concerned something had happened to her or the baby (abortion? a miscarriage?) but she thanked Tina for calling and agreed to come in for her Baby Bundle.
Yesterday, Kattie came in and told Tina her story.
Four weeks after Kattie came into our center, she was still spotting sporadically and knew something “just wasn’t quite right.” She had never spotted with her three previous pregnancies. At this time, Kattie had not started her pre-natal care with her doctor. She finally called her OB-GYN and they scheduled a routine ultrasound.
During the ultrasound, Kattie was relieved to see and hear the baby’s heartbeat. The sonographer showed her the different measurements and assured Kattie that everything “looked normal.”
But something caught Kattie’s eye, and she asked the sonographer to go back to the previous spot they were just looking at. She asked the sonographer, “Is that supposed to be there?” The technician went silent and turned white. She even dropped the equipment she was holding. The ultrasound technician said, “I can’t tell you, but your baby is okay. The doctor will have to confirm everything.” Then the technician left the room, leaving Kattie on the table crying, unsure of what was happening. She just started to pray.
When the doctor came in, she told her she was right to trust her “mother’s instinct.” The doctor then told Kattie she was pregnant with twins, but one of the babies was stuck in the fallopian tube. Surgery was required immediately to remove the tube before it burst. The doctor said if Kattie had waited just one more day to have an ultrasound, she might not be alive. At this point, Kattie couldn’t believe what she was hearing. She knew something wasn’t right, but now she feared losing the other baby or possibly her own life.
Kattie made arrangements for her three other kids, and contacted her employer to take some time off from work. She went into surgery and they removed the entire fallopian tube. Kattie and her other baby came through surgery just fine! She is now mourning the loss of the baby who did not survive, but praising Jesus for sparing her life and the life of the other twin. She told Tina that she has no doubt God’s plans are more perfect than ours, and that He gives each mother the strength required to be a mom- one of the most humbling and rewarding callings we as women accept.
A client returned to one of our centers for a baby bundle for her baby girl who is due very soon. A baby bundle is a gift we give to our clients who chose life for their babies. They contain necessities for a baby: diapers, wipes, clothing, etc. This woman is from Africa, and her husband is still in Africa.
She was so appreciative for the baby items she had just been given, thanking the volunteer peer counselor repeatedly. When the counselor, Beth*, asked if she could pray with the client, she said, “Yes.” Beth then asked if she could hold her hands, and again, she responded with a simple, “Yes.”
As they held hands, Beth asked her if she loved Jesus and if He was her Savior. This sweet client responded, “Yes, He is!”
Beth said, “Look at our hands- they are different, but we are sisters. We are God’s children!” The woman smiled, and they prayed together.
“For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile- the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on Him.” Romans 10:12
Did you know there are several volunteer opportunities at Life Centers? We always need people to volunteer as a peer counselor, receptionist, and a support services worker, which could mean assembling baby bundles, sorting baby clothes, or cleaning toy donations.
To learn more, visit https://lifecenters.com/get-involved/volunteer/.
*Name has been changed
It’s hard for some people to believe, but there are so many of our coworkers, neighbors, friends, and even family members who have not heard about what Jesus has done for us; for all of us.
Our peer counselors in our centers are reminded of this almost daily. Men and women come in looking for answers and wanting help. Often times, the initial reason they walk through our doors is for a pregnancy test, but when they go into a counseling room to talk one-on-one with someone who will listen, our clients are given the opportunity to hear the gospel- often for the first time.
Recently, an 18-year-old girl came to our center for a pregnancy test, which was negative. Back in the counseling room, the peer counselor asked Tara* if anyone has ever talked with her about Jesus and shared what He has done for us, she said no, but she wanted to know about Him.
Together, they went through scripture and the peer counselor told Tara how Christ died for us to save us from sin. The peer counselor could tell Tara was very interested, and asked her if she wanted to accept Christ. They prayed together, and Tara was very excited. She accepted Christ! She couldn’t wait to take her Bible and study guide home, along with a church referral list. The counselor described Tara’s excitement and joy as “genuine and contagious.”
Tara’s reason for coming to one of our centers ended up being less about a pregnancy test and more about accepting Christ and hearing the Gospel. At our center, Tara still got the news of a new life being born; her own, as she accepted Christ into her heart and into her life.
“Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.” Matthew 28:19
*Name has been changed
Are you interested in changing lives through volunteering? Contact Tammy Johnson at firstname.lastname@example.org.
There are some things that just aren’t easy to talk about. Having an abortion, I’d imagine, is probably pretty high on the list.
Yet like many things, talking about it and working through the pain or confusion an abortion leaves behind is a way to begin the healing process.
This was the case for Sammy.*
After a pregnancy test confirmed she was pregnant, she sat down to talk with one of our peer counselors.
During their discussion, Sammy shared how she was very broken hearted over a previous abortion. As she relived her abortion, recalling the details and the decision to abort her baby, she cried quite a bit. It was very obvious that her abortion is something she still struggles with.
Sammy opened up about her abortion with one of our peer counselors, who she has never met, but felt comfortable enough to do so as she indicated on her exit survey.
What was most helpful about your visit today?
“I felt comfortable talking about deep seeded issues that I never share with people. I received plenty of information that will help me in the future.”
“This was the best center I could have ever found on a random online search to get answers. Very helpful and kind. I got the information needed to direct me in the right direction. Hoping to have a healthy pregnancy and baby to take home this time.”
Suffering in silence about an abortion can be unbearable, but many people are.
This is a huge reason Life Centers exists; to offer support and comfort to those who feel alone.
Soar (spiritually oriented abortion recovery) is a post-abortion recovery support group for both men and women impacted by the loss of a child to abortion. Life Centers leads participants on a confidential journey of recovery in an intimate support group with others who are moving toward freedom and healing.
For more information about soar please contact Machelle Montgomery at (317) 923-9030 or email@example.com and visit our webpage at https://lifecenters.com/learn-more/services/post-abortion/.
*Name has been changed.
The passion for serving the unborn continues to be passed down to the next generation. It’s amazing that a child as young as 10-years-old can understand that all lives have value; one life is not more important than another or is more deserving to live, and protecting and speaking up for the unborn is necessary and should be done.
In the Bible, we see that God died for all human beings, saving all souls, because to God all human lives have equal value. “For God does not show favoritism” (Romans 2:11).
One 10-year-old who knows God’s word to be true is Annalise.
At her school, the students were challenged to bring their own lunches with the incentive that they would be given fifty cents per lunch to be given to the charity of their choice.
Annalise was inspired immediately, and knew she wanted to raise money for Life Centers to help save babies. She set her goal to raise at least $50 and got to work.
In the end, Annalise exceeded her goal, raising $64 and donated all of it to Life Centers. That money is enough to cover the cost of a Baby Bundle! This 10-year-old girl was able to make an impact in a baby’s life who she will probably never meet. But the important thing to Annalise is saving any and all lives, because she knows all human life has equal worth and IS valuable, just as God has said.
A “failed abortion.” That is what a client said she thought happened to her.
Several months ago, Clarissa* took a pregnancy test at home and it was positive. Her husband, Sam*, was adamant about not having any more kids. They had one son together. He told Clarissa he wanted her to have an abortion. Listening to her husband, she went to a clinic and was given the abortion pill. She took one pill at the center, and took a second pill the next day at home. Clarissa experienced some light bleeding and cramping, but said the experience, “wasn’t bad.”
Six weeks went by. Clarissa, Sam, and their 6-year-old son moved to the Indianapolis area from out of state. They both started new jobs and became very busy with their new life when Clarissa realized she never had a period after taking the abortion pills. She took another home pregnancy test- and it was positive. That’s when she came to Life Centers.
Clarissa and Amanda*, the Center Director, had a very in depth conversation which ended in prayer and tears. Amanda told her she needed to find an OB-GYN to determine how far along she was. When Clarissa left the center that day, Amanda had no idea what her choice would be. Would she keep the baby she tried to abort once already, or ultimately choose abortion?
Amanda followed up with Clarissa a few times and invited her back to the center for a Baby Bundle if she was parenting. To Amanda’s surprise, Clarissa came back to the center just a few weeks ago! She came in with her 6-year-old son and they shared they would be welcoming a baby girl to the family in March. The little boy beamed, and said he had “been praying for a little sister for a very long time.”
They brought Amanda a card and flowers. In the card Clarissa wrote, “Thank you is simply not enough to express my thanks. Your kindness brought me hope when I was in a very dark place. I will never forget the prayers you said for me and my family the day I showed up at your center. Those prayers have come to fruition. I would still love to go to church with you and feel utterly blessed our paths crossed.”
Clarissa’s husband, Sam, had a complete heart change and is eagerly anticipating the birth of his daughter. It turns out Clarissa’s “failed abortion” was actually the answer to a little boys’ prayer for a baby sister.
If you or someone you know is struggling with a pregnancy related decision, visit one of our centers for free services, accurate information and education, and a nonjudgmental ear to listen to your story.
*Names have been changed.
In the final days of our Sanctity of Human Life campaign with Moody Radio, we were live on their morning show today from 6:00am until 9:00am. Listeners were encouraged to call in to make a donation, as we had volunteers and staff members standing by to take their phone call and enter their gift. Executive Director Tom Shevlot, staff members, and volunteers all shared the importance of Baby Bundles and ultrasounds to our ministry. These are two tools we provide at no cost to our clients to encourage them to choose life. For Life Centers, it costs $60 to assemble a Baby Bundle, and $100 to cover the cost of one ultrasound exam.
There were many people who called in to donate this morning with their own story of either abortion or adoption. This prompted them to want to give money to go toward an ultrasound exam or a Baby Bundle (or both) in hopes of changing someone’s life for the better.
One caller in particular really stood out. Melissa* called in to donate $600 as a birthday gift to herself! She explained that 60 years ago, her grandmother made an appointment for her mother to have an abortion. Melissa was the baby who was to be aborted. Her mother chose not to go to the appointment solely out of defiance toward her grandmother. There wasn’t any other reasoning or motive behind not going to the appointment; she simply wanted to do the opposite of what her mother had wanted her to do and as a result, she had the baby. When Melissa was only 2 months old, her mother realized how difficult it was to care for a new baby and decided she couldn’t do it.
Melissa’s grandmother, who scheduled the appointment for her granddaughter to be aborted, ended up being the woman who raised her.
Growing up, Melissa accepted the belief that many abortion agencies teach: that every baby should be a wanted baby or they should be aborted. Throughout her college years, she supported abortion agencies and donated to them. As Melissa grew older, her beliefs changed. She now realizes the value of life and is a supporter of Life Centers. Melissa donated to Life Centers today to celebrate her own life, and her gift will be used to bring more lives into the world so they can celebrate their birthdays, too.
If you would like to donate to the Life Centers and Moody Radio Sanctity of Human Life campaign, visit https://lifecenters.com/sanctity-of-human-life/. You can designate your donation to go toward a Baby Bundle or an ultrasound exam.
*Name has been changed.